There’s not enough time.
Time to work. Time to exercise. Time to reconnect with my wife. Time to think about all the things we’ll never have time to do.
Oh, and time to be a good parent.
Most of my dad-friends agree there’s never enough time for that. We want to be good dads, but it takes time — good, quality time.
For me, being a good dad means spending “some” time every day with my kids. That’s not always quality time, but I do try to talk to them about their days. When time permits, we stray into conversations about deeper issues about life.
Yes, this makes it sound like a chore, like something I’ve added to the to-do list. It’s not. But spending quality time with them had been challenging of late, especially as my older kids have, well, gotten older.
They’re 14 and 12 now. They want their own time — their “alone” time, or at least time away from Mom and Dad. That’s OK with us (most of the time).
The best part is, I actually like hanging out with my kids. They’re funny, inquisitive and talk about our lives in ways that give me hope for the future. But there’s a 10-year age range among them, so spending quality time with all of them on something they all like to do and talk about is a challenge.
My go-to solution to get everyone in on dad-time is technology.
Read more at https://www.vindy.com/opinion/community-columnists/2020/02/tech-helps-find-time-to-be-a-good-father/ (may encounter paywall).
Dr. Adam C. Earnheardt is special assistant to the provost and professor of communication in the department of communication at Youngstown State University in Youngstown, OH, USA where he also directs the graduate program in professional communication. He researches and writes on a variety of topics including communication technologies, relationships, and sports (with an emphasis on fandom). His work has appeared in Mahoning Matters as well as The Vindicator and Tribune-Chronicle newspapers.